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Hacking into your psyche Matrix (it's easier than understanding the trilogy!)
Most people have seen The Matrix. A film released in the late 90’s starring Keanu Reaves in which he (Neo) discovered that we lived in a computer generated dream world built to keep us under control. I loved the film. I remember it giving me an eerie feeling – what if it was true and I just didn’t know it? Then, when I started to think about this blog post it suddenly occurred to me that we sort of do. Metaphorically speaking anyway. Obviously I am not Morphius about to offer you insight into the reality of life, but what I realised was that so many people blindly act out their lives without necessarily thinking, as a result of their internal construct (matrix) or ‘rules’. People believe they have no ability to change things (or just don’t think about it), when of course they do.
Being the person that you want to be in all areas of your life isn’t easy. But it is possible. As long as you’re prepared to put yourself out there and work at it. Life’s experiences for you aren’t fixed, you have the ability to make things happen.
Ask yourself, what part of me isn’t how I’d really like it to be? In what situations is the person that I want to be, not the person that I am? When you’re at work, are there situations that you walk away from feeling dissatisfied or frustrated, annoyed or embarrassed? In your relationships are there times when you feel like you’re not being heard in the way that you’d like, or you lack the connection that you really yearn for? Do you make the same mistakes over and over again and you’re not sure why or how to change things? Do you find yourself thinking “if only I could be more… (confident, happy, assertive, etc…)”? Or perhaps you think “if only I was less… (anxious, worried, down, etc…)”. If you do, then this might be a good place to start.
So, how do you go about hacking into the matrix of your psyche to write yourself a new programme? How can you get more of what you want in life and less of what you don’t?
The following points tell you how…
1. Work out your current software code: First of all, you need to think about what you currently do that’s not giving you the result you want, and the reasons that you do it. This might be quite hard to think about. It’s really important that you do though, and that you have a good understanding of your current thoughts and actions. Are you following some internal ‘rules’ and if so, what are they?
2. Write a new software code for your ultimate programme: Secondly, ask yourself how you would like things to be and what you would need to be doing differently to get that result? To help you with this, ask yourself the following: If I was to get the result I wanted, what would that be like? What would I be doing differently? How would I feel (before, during and after)? How do other people do it (even if it’s not like me at all!)?
3. Brand it: Find an image or metaphor. Ask yourself, what image really sums up this new way of being. This will help you to remember it.
4. Give the software programme a trial run: This is the most difficult part – you need to act it out! It might feel strange, unnatural and as if you actually are acting, but that’s ok. You can start out taking really small steps, but try testing things out every now and then until you get more confident with it.
5. Identify any glitches in the system: Reflect on the experience. Watch how people respond, think about how you feel doing it and afterwards. Was it as bad as you thought it would be? Did people respond as you thought they would?
6. Amend the software programme code: Revise your plan, build on it and implement it again! Based on your reflections, tweak your plan, add things to overcome obstacles, make it more comprehensive and keep going.
7. Run your programme on autopilot: Continue practicing and revising. Eventually things will be so automatic, you won’t need to think about it and it will feel natural (just as your current way does).
There you have it… sounds so easy doesn’t it!!! Of course it won’t be easy. It will be hard, make you feel uncomfortable, push the boundaries of your comfort zone and more. But when you start to get results, it will be so worth it and you’ll be glad you took the red pill!
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